Which Parenting Type are You?
Which parent are you? OMG when I went to find a list of “parenting styles” for this post I was floored at what I found. My favorite list came from Wikipedia…are you ready…here we go (I kid you not…this is the list…can you say them all in one breath…I can’t):
- Authoritarian (don’t confuse the two…they look similar)
- Indulgent (or Permissive)
- Concerted cultivation (note: this is a “specific form” of positive parenting)
- Overparenting (aka: helicopter)
- Idle (there wasn’t even a definition to this one)
- Dolphin (while not put in it’s own category…there is reference that the opposite to this is “Tiger” parent)
- Ethnic Minority
Wow…talk about a list (do you need a bathroom break after reading all of those? Yes, that’s fine, I’ll wait). And here I thought there were just 2-3. And of course, let’s not forget you can be any mixture of types (I think my son said that if we were to take into account all the combinations of parenting styles from above we’d be in the billions). Now I know why we can debate about what makes a good parent until the cows come home. If there are that many “types” then NO ONE is going to be right…no one. It’s ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY IMPOSSIBLE to be right. After reading through some of the descriptions online…I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that a parent that firmly believes in being a “Dolphin” parent (who may or may not take offense to that term) is going to STRONGLY disagree with the “Authoritarian” parent (who also may or may not take offense to that term). Who’s right?
Look, if there is one thing I’ve learned after reading all of these descriptions on the forms of parenting and a bunch of articles on the topic (my eyes are glazing over now and I really need either more coffee or several glasses of wine, not sure which), is that depending on which “leading researcher(s)” you read, they will tell you that “research shows” XX form of parenting leads to the most “well adjusted child” (oh, and by the way…what in the heck does “well adjusted child” mean? I’m going to tell you right now…I’m seriously betting each researcher’s definition of “well-adjusted” DIFFERS dramatically!!)
So I’ve got it…you know how there are 529s for college funds? We need to see if we can have a NEW financial investment instrument created for a THERAPY FUND! See here’s my logic, I’m 99.99% sure my kids are going to need therapy because I didn’t give them the proper parenting style and therefore they didn’t turn out to be “well adjusted.” So I might as well start the fund now so they won’t go into debt funding their therapist’s new Tesla. I hear those cars cost as much as 4 years in college these days. Given the fact there are no student loans for therapy, I’m thinking it would be a wiser use of my money to put it into a THERAPY FUND than the 529…just sayin’. Hey, I’m just looking out for my kids’ long term financial health.
Look at it this way, no matter what parenting style we pick, we are doing our part for the future economy…we are keeping the next generation of psychologists and psychiatrists in business.
Always remember your Awesomesauce!!